In one of my last blogs, I talked about my first few months in America. It was exciting and overwhelming all at the same time. Now I would like to tell you about my life in Ukraine, before the adoption. I was living in a small two-bedroom apartment with my two brothers, and our mom […]
Category: Adoptees
Whether it’s an infant or an older child, anyone who joins a family through the legal process of adoption is an “adoptee”, also known as an adopted person. You now have a “legal” parent-child relationship, with all the rights and obligations as if you were born to that person. Through nature and nurture, an adoptee will always be the child of both families. They may have questions about their medical or familial background, want to locate birth parents or siblings or wonder how different their life would be if raised by the birth family. There are many resources and support for adoptees in local communities and on the Internet. This section provides resources on how to reunite with siblings and birth parents. It also contains advice on how to have a healthy relationship with all the people in your life who may not understand the unique history of an adoptee and the nuances of those relationships.
From Adopted to Adopting
Sarah Coady I went from adopted to adopting. My story begins on the 12th February 1979. I was born on this day to a 16 year old mother who had decided to place me for adoption. Apparently her eyes were covered as she delivered me and she did not see or hold me before leaving […]
When Your Child Writes to Their Birth Family
I have written to my daughter’s birth mother many times going on six years since her adoption. My daughter has even dictated a letter for me to write. Recently however, my sweet girl who just finished Kindergarten, asked to write her own letter. I wasn’t surprised as she has been wanting to meet her birth […]
Helping Adoptees Move Past Loss
While most of us agree or at least recognize adoption starts with a loss, I feel sometimes we dwell on that and may let it take over our news feed and also our lives. First off, I am in NO way downplaying the feelings of those who struggle with their loss. It is not a […]
Mothers by Nature or Nurture Shape a Growing Child
Mothers are mothers. They worry about their kids eating the right food, getting enough sleep and treating others with kindness. They tend to be overprotective and ask too many questions. They feel they know what is right and too often share their unsolicited opinions with their children. What about mothers who don’t have that option? […]