We, as parents through adoption have often waited for a long time for our precious child and want to do right by him or her when they arrive. Some of us reading every book on attachment and primal wounds, readying to “fix” any problem that comes our way. Almost a self-regimen of “what to […]
Author: adoptionnetstg
Missing My Son’s Birth Mother
When I counsel people who are adopting, I talk with them about the importance of developing a good relationship with a prospective birth mother. In my mind this is the key to a successful adoption: One where the child may have the opportunity to know his birth mother—either growing up or later on in life. […]
Back to School and Fitting In
Watching all the commercials for going back to school specials on clothes, shoes and electronics is bringing back a lot of memories, including trips to the mall and specialty shops and negotiations on what was appropriate school attire. With my girls 23 and 27 years of age, I no longer do the August shop around. […]
A Dream for 1 Million Good Nights: The Pajama Program
Have you ever had THAT feeling? The feeling that there was something missing in your life—a void that even a happily content life could not fill? The feeling that you were being called to something more? This was the burning ember that Genevieve Piturro had in her heart before she would start an organization that […]
Nadejda Means Hope: My Life Before Adoption
In one of my last blogs, I talked about my first few months in America. It was exciting and overwhelming all at the same time. Now I would like to tell you about my life in Ukraine, before the adoption. I was living in a small two-bedroom apartment with my two brothers, and our mom […]
Send Me Back to My Birthmom
“I want to leave this stupid family. Send me back to my birthmom.” My ten-year-old threw that statement out last week when I told her that I wouldn’t make pancakes for breakfast. I knew she would be getting a doughnut later in the morning, so I made eggs and fruit to prevent a sugar overload. […]
Helping Children Welcome a New Sibling
Bringing a new baby home is most fun for the children who are waiting. Too young to yet understand a newborn’s limitations, the siblings are anxious to get down on the floor with him and wrestle or play trucks. But a new baby does little more than eat, sleep and poop. How can you prepare […]
Preparing to Adopt: Plan For What You Can
There are a lot of things that you must do when preparing to adopt a child. I won’t even begin to list it all here. However, there are also other things that are helpful and can make the journey easier with a little planning. When I found out that our daughter’s birth mom was considered […]
Your Pregnancy: Week 6
Your baby is about a quarter of an inch long, about the size of a lentil during week 6 of your pregnancy. So much is happening! Your baby’s face is beginning to form, with optic vesicles in place for the eyes and passageways for the inner ear that will eventually lead to the outer ears. […]
I Always Thought My Child Would Look Like Me
I have heard this from countless adoptive parents. I thought it myself when I was younger. Funny thing is adopted children do “look like you.” Not necessarily with the same eye, hair or skin tones, but once they are nurtured by you, they will absorb your language intonations and mannerisms. Ok, not the same, but […]